Misperceptions, Assumptions And Demands On Ourselves And Others Can Lead To Stress, So Why Get MAD?

When faced with challenging people, situations and circumstances, it is so easy to allow our anger and frustration to get the better of us. However, when you allow yourself to step back and look at the big picture, is it really worth getting mad about?

What you choose to get upset about now you will probably not even think about in 6 weeks or 6 months’ time, unless you allow yourself to become a victim……….

Have you noticed that some people get more stressed out than others? That is because of how they choose to react to any given person or situation. Understandably, you are going to get angry or upset if you are issued with a parking ticket, be accused of something you did not do, or miss out on a wonderful opportunity. However, think about how that anger can affect the whole of your health and wellbeing if you choose to hold it or keep feeding it, by replaying the whole scenario in your head for hours on end every single day? It’s ok to be angry in the moment when something happens to knock you off balance, or what you deem to believe, ruin your day, or maybe even turn your life upside down.

Nevertheless, learning to let go, by taking control of your thoughts and accepting that you are not in control of every one or every situation, is the first step to alleviating the stress in your life. Albert Ellis (a famous American psychotherapist who developed rational emotive behaviour therapy) stated; “as fallible human beings we create our own emotional disturbance by how we think, react, respond or perceive any given situation or any one”. This is determined on what we demand to be just so, or right according to our terms of reference. So think about what thoughts, ideas, assumptions and perceptions trigger your anger which ultimately leads to stress and anxiety?

No one is perfect, we are all fallible human beings. Therefore, consider how much you want outside influences to affect your way of being. You are in control of your thoughts, whether you choose to believe it or not. The way to a less stressed life is to change your thought processes, the ones that no longer serve or support you, and see what a difference it makes to your circumstances, your health, your relationships, your way of being. Don’t expect others to change, change comes within.

I would be interested to know how you get on, so why not drop me a line?

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