Archive for July, 2014

What does it feel like to live a stress free life?

Monday, July 28th, 2014

They say that, “we all need a certain amount of stress in our lives to help motivate us and kIMG_0730eep us on our toes”?  How much do you believe in that quote?

Some people actually thrive on stress because unless they don’t have something to worry about or have some kind of drama going on in their lives they don’t feel ‘safe’ or happy?!!!

To live a stress free life is all about living in the present moment, being mindful, going with the flow and becoming self-aware, so that when you are willing to acknowledge your authentic feelings,  you instinctively know  what is wrong when you start to feel ‘a bit down’, and choose to do something about it.   Sometimes we have a tendency to hang onto something that is no longer working or fearful of letting go in case our world falls apart?

However, being stress free means that when you get up in the morning, you feel good to be alive, excited at the prospect of going to work, rather than counting the days down to the weekend or your next holiday?!  You find it easier to be positive and see the cup half full rather than half empty.  Positive happy people, don’t let things get them down so easily and see problems as obstacles to overcome, rather than burdens to carry…..

It is so easy to allow others to ‘push your buttons’, when their ideas are not the same as yours or challenge your beliefs.  However, it’s important to remember that we are all entitled to believe in what we choose to believe in, act upon what feels right for us and live by our own choices and our own decisions.

Living a stress free life can be a work in progress, so consider how quickly you find yourself reacting to certain people or situations and then consider how you could change that in order to create less stress or hassle in your life?

The problem with most humans is that we delude ourselves into thinking that in order for us to be happy, others whom we choose to be involved with need to change.  Yet, change comes from within and when we look to others to make us happy we only set ourselves up for failure.  We are all fallible human beings and none of us is perfect……..

Ultimately, working towards your own personal goals will help you to lead a less stressful life.  Rather than allowing yourself to compromise too greatly, better to accept what you cannot change and take control of what you can change.  Accept every day as a bonus, and when you take a few moments to be thankful and count your blessings for all the good in your life, it is easier to let go of stuff, which in the grand scheme of things won’t really matter in a few months’ time.

So embrace your greatness, count your blessings, be thankful for all the wonderful people you have in your life and enjoy being YOU!

How can motivational life coaching help you tackle stress?

Thursday, July 10th, 2014

Tony Robbins, famous American life coach once said, “if you keep doing what you have always done, you will always get what you have always got”?  There is no truer saying than this.

Some clients who have approached me for motivational life coaching have done so, because they crave change in their lives.  Especially, when they feel that something is not working, and they feel run down and burnt out.  One particular client who approached me some time ago,  was finding it extremely difficult to cope with the demands of his job.  No matter how many hours he put in, he felt he was hitting his head against a brick wall.  Juggling too many tasks was one of his self defeating behaviours, as was his inability to delegate tasks to some of his work colleagues. The client soon recognized that he spent far too much time being reactive, rather than pro-active!

During our sessions, he established that the goals he wished to work towards were, time management, stress management, improving his communication skills and developing a more assertive approach.  With the use of the GROW model we started to consider what actions needed to be taken and how he could overcome the obstacles he had created in the first place.  I also introduced him to some NLP techniques, which certainly provided some ‘light bulb moments’ and enabled him to become more self aware.

12 months later, the client now feels much more confident in his ability to manage his time more effectively.  Logging how much time he spent on each task, although seemed tedious at first, helped him to recognize how much time he was actually wasting!  Introducing him to the Pareto Principle (20% activity = 80% results) also helped him to see how much more productive he could be.

In just a relatively short space of time, he was thrilled that he was able to communicate more effectively with his colleagues, by developing rapport, learning to listen more effectively, and consider ways in which they could work more effectively as a team.  My client is now far less stressed than he was several months ago.  His boss has commented on how much his productivity has improved and overall the client still continues to work with the strategies he developed.   He has now moved up the management ladder and is extremely happy for the support and help he was given in order to get him from where he was to where he is now.

So, how could motivational life coaching help you?  What are you struggling with?  Maybe you find it difficult to ask for the support you desperately need for fear of feeling or deeming to be a failure?  Failure only stems from doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result?!  Consider how you could invest in your future, in order to bring about some much needed positive changes.