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The Obesity Crisis – what can be done about it?

Thursday, January 8th, 2015

With the recent news that ‘obesity’ is going to be deemed as a disability, to some this has caused an outcry, what do you think?

According to the American Medical Association in their annual meeting in 2013 it was declared that the ‘obesity disease’ will be requiring many medical interventions.  It is a fact that obesity is reaching epidemic proportions when you consider that in the UK for example a government study in 2012 found that 66.6% of men and 57.2% of women were overweight.  I have no doubt that those numbers have increased over the course of the last two years.

Concerns about ‘fat’ are also fuelled in terms of the economic and health burden created by hordes of people who refuse to take responsibility for their own weight gain and continue to get bigger!  In terms of it becoming a burden, the cost to the NHS is huge when you consider what the consequence of being overweight creates; conditions such as Type II diabetes, early onset of heart disease such as high blood pressure, as well as high cholesterol.  Obesity also creates musculoskeletal, circulatory, metabolic and endocrine reproductive and urological, respiratory and gastrointestinal problems as well as liver disease and some cancers.

So, what can be done about it?  Personally, I believe people who are morbidly obese need to seek psychological help, as obeseity is very often linked to emotional difficulties/psychological problems.  People will often comfort eat and drink to excess rather than face upto the problems they are experiencing in life.  Lack of exercise is also key. With more people isolating themselves socially, preferring to play computer games or talk to friends and family via social media, rather than going out to physically meet people, could be part of the problem?

Despite the likes of Jamie Oliver, who pioneered school dinners, raising people’s awareness about eating healthier meals and going back to basics; despite regular media coverage via reality programmes and documentaries about the hazards of being overweight and eating unhealthily, the problem only seems to be getting worse rather than better.

Perhaps we need to get back to basics?  Introduce more physical activity in schools and within the community?  What more could the government do to encourage people to take up regular physical activity and promote good health?  I would be interested to hear what you think about it, so do get in touch and let me know…..

(Statistics taken from the BACP Journal (December 2014)

How to tackle the post-Christmas blues?!

Thursday, January 8th, 2015

Presents have been exchanged, socializing with friends and family has been great fun, if not maybe somewhat challenging?! The Christmas tree and decorations have all been put away, you’ve probably eaten and drank to excess, but hey who cares, Christmas comes but once a year RIGHT?!

Nevertheless, when you start to count the cost of the festive holiday season, it can soon bring you down to earth with a bump, which is why most people dread the month of January.  However, it does’nt have to be so bad……

Instead of getting yourself down over the state of the weather conditions, the concerns about the credit card bill coming through your door, or the lack of cash flow, simply take some time out to plan some fun times throughout the month?

I make a point of arranging get-togethe’s with friends, some of whom I may not have got to see over the festive period.  Taking regular exercise, (and it does’nt have to mean forcing yourself into the gym 5 times a week, to lose those festive pounds), releases those happy chappies called ‘endorphins’ into your blood stream that help to make you feel good.  Walking out in nature always uplifts the spirit and when you do it with your partner, spouse or friends, it can be even more fun.

January is always a good time to take an inventory of your life too.  Consider what you have achieved so far, give yourself a pat on the back.  Rather than chide yourself for not achieving as much, consider what steps you can take to make some positive changes in your life throughout the coming year?  It may be changing career, starting a new hobby, planning a special holiday or joining a course to learn something new.

Whatever you decide to do, choose to have fun doing it, choose to be happy rather than dwell on any past mistakes or worry too much about what the future may hold.  The past is past, the future is yet to come and each day is a gift so live each day in the present and enjoy being you!

What does it feel like to live a stress free life?

Monday, July 28th, 2014

They say that, “we all need a certain amount of stress in our lives to help motivate us and kIMG_0730eep us on our toes”?  How much do you believe in that quote?

Some people actually thrive on stress because unless they don’t have something to worry about or have some kind of drama going on in their lives they don’t feel ‘safe’ or happy?!!!

To live a stress free life is all about living in the present moment, being mindful, going with the flow and becoming self-aware, so that when you are willing to acknowledge your authentic feelings,  you instinctively know  what is wrong when you start to feel ‘a bit down’, and choose to do something about it.   Sometimes we have a tendency to hang onto something that is no longer working or fearful of letting go in case our world falls apart?

However, being stress free means that when you get up in the morning, you feel good to be alive, excited at the prospect of going to work, rather than counting the days down to the weekend or your next holiday?!  You find it easier to be positive and see the cup half full rather than half empty.  Positive happy people, don’t let things get them down so easily and see problems as obstacles to overcome, rather than burdens to carry…..

It is so easy to allow others to ‘push your buttons’, when their ideas are not the same as yours or challenge your beliefs.  However, it’s important to remember that we are all entitled to believe in what we choose to believe in, act upon what feels right for us and live by our own choices and our own decisions.

Living a stress free life can be a work in progress, so consider how quickly you find yourself reacting to certain people or situations and then consider how you could change that in order to create less stress or hassle in your life?

The problem with most humans is that we delude ourselves into thinking that in order for us to be happy, others whom we choose to be involved with need to change.  Yet, change comes from within and when we look to others to make us happy we only set ourselves up for failure.  We are all fallible human beings and none of us is perfect……..

Ultimately, working towards your own personal goals will help you to lead a less stressful life.  Rather than allowing yourself to compromise too greatly, better to accept what you cannot change and take control of what you can change.  Accept every day as a bonus, and when you take a few moments to be thankful and count your blessings for all the good in your life, it is easier to let go of stuff, which in the grand scheme of things won’t really matter in a few months’ time.

So embrace your greatness, count your blessings, be thankful for all the wonderful people you have in your life and enjoy being YOU!

How can motivational life coaching help you tackle stress?

Thursday, July 10th, 2014

Tony Robbins, famous American life coach once said, “if you keep doing what you have always done, you will always get what you have always got”?  There is no truer saying than this.

Some clients who have approached me for motivational life coaching have done so, because they crave change in their lives.  Especially, when they feel that something is not working, and they feel run down and burnt out.  One particular client who approached me some time ago,  was finding it extremely difficult to cope with the demands of his job.  No matter how many hours he put in, he felt he was hitting his head against a brick wall.  Juggling too many tasks was one of his self defeating behaviours, as was his inability to delegate tasks to some of his work colleagues. The client soon recognized that he spent far too much time being reactive, rather than pro-active!

During our sessions, he established that the goals he wished to work towards were, time management, stress management, improving his communication skills and developing a more assertive approach.  With the use of the GROW model we started to consider what actions needed to be taken and how he could overcome the obstacles he had created in the first place.  I also introduced him to some NLP techniques, which certainly provided some ‘light bulb moments’ and enabled him to become more self aware.

12 months later, the client now feels much more confident in his ability to manage his time more effectively.  Logging how much time he spent on each task, although seemed tedious at first, helped him to recognize how much time he was actually wasting!  Introducing him to the Pareto Principle (20% activity = 80% results) also helped him to see how much more productive he could be.

In just a relatively short space of time, he was thrilled that he was able to communicate more effectively with his colleagues, by developing rapport, learning to listen more effectively, and consider ways in which they could work more effectively as a team.  My client is now far less stressed than he was several months ago.  His boss has commented on how much his productivity has improved and overall the client still continues to work with the strategies he developed.   He has now moved up the management ladder and is extremely happy for the support and help he was given in order to get him from where he was to where he is now.

So, how could motivational life coaching help you?  What are you struggling with?  Maybe you find it difficult to ask for the support you desperately need for fear of feeling or deeming to be a failure?  Failure only stems from doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result?!  Consider how you could invest in your future, in order to bring about some much needed positive changes.

Put a Spring is your Step – Don’t let fear stop you from achieving your dreams!

Monday, February 17th, 2014

How to avoid the post-Christmas blues?

Thursday, January 9th, 2014

Presents have been exchanged, socializing with friends and family has been great fun, if not maybe somewhat challenging?! The Christmas tree and decorations have all been put away, you’ve probably eaten and drank to excess, but hey who cares, Christmas comes but once a year RIGHT?!

Nevertheless, when you start to count the cost of the festive holiday season, it can soon bring you down to earth with a bump, which is why most people dread the month of January.  However, it does’nt have to be so bad……

Instead of getting yourself down over the state of the weather conditions, the concerns about the credit card bill coming through your door, or the lack of cash flow, simply take some time out to plan some fun times throughout the month?

I make a point of arranging get-togethe’s with friends, some of whom I may not have got to see over the festive period.  Taking regular exercise, (and it does’nt have to mean forcing yourself into the gym 5 times a week, to lose those festive pounds), releases those happy chappies called ‘endorphins’ into your blood stream that help to make you feel good.  Walking out in nature always uplifts the spirit and when you do it with your partner, spouse or friends, it can be even more fun.

January is always a good time to take an inventory of your life too.  Consider what you have achieved so far, give yourself a pat on the back.  Rather than chide yourself for not achieving as much, consider what steps you can take to make some positive changes in your life throughout the coming year?  It may be changing career, starting a new hobby, planning a special holiday or joining a course to learn something new.

Whatever you decide to do, choose to have fun doing it, choose to be happy rather than dwell on any past mistakes or worry too much about what the future may hold.  The past is past, the future is yet to come and each day is a gift so live each day in the present and enjoy being you!

Jayne Briggs

 

Managing change efficiently and effectively!

Thursday, June 6th, 2013

When faced with imminent change, rather than allow fear to kick in, why not embrace the idea of ‘new and infinite possibilities’?

Whether you choose to believe it or not, YOU are the creator of your own reality. Therefore, rather than allow yourself to feel like you are on a ‘sinking ship’ or spending too much time considering the ‘yes buts’, or the ‘what ifs’ – ‘grab the bull by the horns’ and make up your mind on how you are going to start to adapt to the changes that are taking place. What choices do you have? Are there any avenues you have not considered or alternative choices/ideas you have not thought about?

Use your time effectively and efficiently to manage the changes by the use of the 3 ‘P’s':-

Plan
Prioritize and
Prepare

Whatever you do, avoid Procrastinating, Catastrophizing and Awfulizing! Give yourself time to process what maybe changing or has changed, be kind to yourself and do not allow worry, fear and anxiety to kick in. Instead, be happy in the knowledge that you are still alive, that you still have so many things in your life to be grateful for and that whatever happens, you will be ok and you will survive!

Your life is a Gift, so live it in the present moment, stay in the here and now in enjoy every single second of it. Spend some time in quiet contemplation and then start re-creating your life, decide who you want to be and how you want your life to look. Don’t worry about the how’s, just have fun doing it. START TODAY!

Spring is finally here – time to re-assess your life?

Tuesday, May 14th, 2013

Re-assessing your life can sometimes seem overwhelming, especially when some kind of change has been forced upon you, whether it be through redundancy, a bereavement or some kind of loss. In such times, one can experience a lot of inner conflict triggered by whatever change has taken place. Consequently, initiating other changes can be too much to face. Is this you?

Neale Donald Walsh, spiritual philosopher said, “when everything changes, change everything”, he even wrote a book of the same title. Change is inevitable and cannot be avoided, so if you think you have reached some form of crossroad, then perhaps it is time to re-assess your life, and consider how you want to make some positive changes?

Fear can be a stumbling block, as can be someone in your life who does not want you to change. However,you need not fear change if you choose to embrace it. Therefore, when making changes, whether it be by changing your career, moving house, relocating to another city or country or finding a new partner, do it one step at a time, and don’t give up on your intentions. Get some additional support if necessary, whether it be by hiring a life coach, seeking out a mentor or confiding in a close friend who you believe will encourage you to do whatever it takes to bring about the changes you seek. Good luck in your journey and DON’T GIVE UP AT THE FIRST OBSTACLE! Stay the course and believe yourself, YOU CAN DO IT.

Vizualise success by getting creative and maintaining faith in your outcome!

Tuesday, June 19th, 2012

Setting out goal plans and taking steps to achieve your goals is one thing, but in order to help you attract the success you so crave in your life, you need to get creative!

So, start by first making your goals SPECIFIC!  Consider by what date, you wish you achieve the goal and remember what I said, be specific!  Then write a letter to yourself describing what your goal will look like by that specific date.  Then, each day, take a few moments to visualise your goal.  Consider, what it will feel like?  Also,  what will you be experiencing when you have reached the goal?

Dale Carnegie stated that back in the late fifties, early sixties, a survey was carried out on Harvard and Yale students to measure their success later in life.  More than half the students who had made goal plans, after graduating, made a success of their lives and had reached their goals by their mid thirties!  Unlike the ones who had left University and had no clue on what they wanted to do with their qualifications.

As we think we create, so get creative, and have faith that whatever you desire, can be yours when you put your body, mind and soul into creating it.  So, get excited, start today, and drop me a line to let me know what you have created.  I feel so excited for you!

Achieving goals means stepping out of the box and allowing your imagination to go wild!

Thursday, March 22nd, 2012

So many people start to plan goals but soon fall flat, because they lose the focus on them, is this you?  If I had a pound for every person who said to me, when they chose to enter into the coaching arena, “I feel my business needs a boost and I have lots of ideas on how to boost it, but I just feel too overwhelmed, I don’t know where to start?”

What I ask them to consider first of all, is “how do you really want to develop your business”?  “Where do you see your business in 3 months, 6 months, 9 months, 12 months or 18 months”?  “How you can prioritize your action steps?”  What is important to remember when goal planning, is to breakdown your goals into small achievable steps rather than feeling you have to tackle all your actions in one go!  In doing this, your goal plan will not seem such a huge mountain to climb.  It is also imperative that you use the 80/20 pareto principle – which is 20% activities bring about 80% results.  In order to achieve this, simply set aside 90 minutes each day, yes, I did say 90 minutes each day to focus on your business goals.  That way you will feel much more in control and less overwhelmed.

Next, you have to start visualizing your success, every single day.  Remember, thoughts create things, and as you think you create.  This will enable you to create new opportunities which will open new doors.  So in following this advise, don’t be surprised if the phone starts ringing, or you start meeting people who can help you get to where you want to be?! GET EXCITED!

Good luck, and if you need any support, then why not contact me to find out how I could help you achieve your goals?