Archive for the ‘Stress’ Category

How can motivational life coaching help you tackle stress?

Thursday, July 10th, 2014

Tony Robbins, famous American life coach once said, “if you keep doing what you have always done, you will always get what you have always got”?  There is no truer saying than this.

Some clients who have approached me for motivational life coaching have done so, because they crave change in their lives.  Especially, when they feel that something is not working, and they feel run down and burnt out.  One particular client who approached me some time ago,  was finding it extremely difficult to cope with the demands of his job.  No matter how many hours he put in, he felt he was hitting his head against a brick wall.  Juggling too many tasks was one of his self defeating behaviours, as was his inability to delegate tasks to some of his work colleagues. The client soon recognized that he spent far too much time being reactive, rather than pro-active!

During our sessions, he established that the goals he wished to work towards were, time management, stress management, improving his communication skills and developing a more assertive approach.  With the use of the GROW model we started to consider what actions needed to be taken and how he could overcome the obstacles he had created in the first place.  I also introduced him to some NLP techniques, which certainly provided some ‘light bulb moments’ and enabled him to become more self aware.

12 months later, the client now feels much more confident in his ability to manage his time more effectively.  Logging how much time he spent on each task, although seemed tedious at first, helped him to recognize how much time he was actually wasting!  Introducing him to the Pareto Principle (20% activity = 80% results) also helped him to see how much more productive he could be.

In just a relatively short space of time, he was thrilled that he was able to communicate more effectively with his colleagues, by developing rapport, learning to listen more effectively, and consider ways in which they could work more effectively as a team.  My client is now far less stressed than he was several months ago.  His boss has commented on how much his productivity has improved and overall the client still continues to work with the strategies he developed.   He has now moved up the management ladder and is extremely happy for the support and help he was given in order to get him from where he was to where he is now.

So, how could motivational life coaching help you?  What are you struggling with?  Maybe you find it difficult to ask for the support you desperately need for fear of feeling or deeming to be a failure?  Failure only stems from doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result?!  Consider how you could invest in your future, in order to bring about some much needed positive changes.

Meditation for Stress Relief

Wednesday, May 28th, 2014

Mindfulness is fast becoming the new buzz-word for encouraging people to slow down and start to take life at a slower pace.  What does mindfulness mean, may you ask? In Buddhist terms, it relates to ‘living in the moment’, enjoying each moment, rather than worrying too much about what happened yesterday or what may happen tomorrow. 

Practicing mindfulness also helps you to become more self-aware.  Therefore, when I choose to be mindful I am more fully aware of the choices and decisions I choose to make in any given moment and the impact they may have on my life/situation or in the immediate future.

We live in a fast pace society and a highly technological world that does not allow us to completely switch off and re-charge our batteries.  Therefore practicing daily meditation is a great way to not only give the mind and body a well-earned rest but also helps you become more productive in the long run.  

Early morning meditation before breakfast and meditation before sleep enables the body to relax, the mind to slow down and de-clutter itself. You feel more refreshed –  your ability to concentrate increases and helps you focus more on daily tasks.  Your mind becomes clutter free and you suddenly realise that you are starting to take life at a steadier pace. 

When you choose to meditate daily and regularly, you find that you become less re-active to stressful situations and feel much calmer.  You also realise that over a period of time, your attitude to life changes for the better, therefore you become more pro-active.

So why not practice being still and in the moment.  It can be challenging at first, especially when you are so used to doing so many different jobs at once and particularly if you find it hard to relax.  However, what is the alternative?  Living your life in a constant highly stressful state does take it’s toll and can lead to tiredness, lethargy and procrastination.  Choosing to take time out for yourself and be in the moment brings great reward, so why not try it and see?  You have nothing to lose and plenty to gain.

Meditation does not mean, sitting and staring at your belly button, it simply means giving yourself time off to be in your own space with just yourself.  Meditation is an opportunity to allow your thoughts to flow in and out of your mind without you choosing to respond to any one them.  Instead enjoy the stillness and start to see how much more you hear and become aware of. 

Drop me a line and let me know how you get on.  If you find it hard to switch off, then why not choose to listen to an MP3 download on my website?  These are guided visualizations to help you relax.  Good luck and enjoy!

Relationship Conflict – how to deal with the stress it can cause?

Monday, March 24th, 2014

Facing or dealing with conflict within a relationship, which may ultimately lead to it’s breakdown, can be very stressful and emotionally draining, to say the least.  It can also impact on the rest of the family. Also, what can add to the angst is when you choose to blame yourself for the breakdown, or others are pointing the blame at you.

Having the right support in place is crucial, yet sometimes talking to friends and family members can create even further confusion.  Therefore, it is important that you and your partner/spouse consider ways in which you can deal with the situation you are facing.  Yet, how can this happen if communication has broken down or if one partner chooses to leave?

First of all, it’s important to take time out to calm down, assess your thoughts and then decide how you are going to deal with it.  Talking certainly helps, especially when you are angry and upset.   Yet, some people find it hard to talk about how they really feel, for fear of being judged  or criticized i.e. “I told you so”.  Anyone who chooses to treat you in this way is of no help to you at all, and you need to avoid them. 

Instead talking to a professional therapist can certainly help.  He or she will provide you with a safe and confidential space to offload your thoughts and relinquish feelings of hurt, anger, frustration, bitterness and heartache.  In doing so, you will be amazed at how much better you will start to feel. Also, talking to someone who ‘understands’ and who can empathise with you will help you to make sense of the situation you are in and eventually, you will start to feel more confident about the choices and decisions you need to make.

Breaking up is hard to do, but I find that for some couples, who still love each other, entering into therapy, being able to talk things through in a ‘neutral space’ away from the earshot of their children, certainly helps them to come to terms with what has happened and find ways in which to overcome the difficulties they are facing.

Getting the right help and support as soon as you can will also help you to avoid sinking into depression.  Too often, by the time a person decides to seek help, they are already depressed and may have had to resort to taking anti-depressants.  Therefore, the quicker you can get the right support, the quicker you will start to take control of your life and decide the best course of action.

So, if you are facing conflict in a relationship or the prospect of a divorce or separation, do something about it NOW before it starts to have a major impact on your health and wellbeing.

How to avoid the post-Christmas blues?

Thursday, January 9th, 2014

Presents have been exchanged, socializing with friends and family has been great fun, if not maybe somewhat challenging?! The Christmas tree and decorations have all been put away, you’ve probably eaten and drank to excess, but hey who cares, Christmas comes but once a year RIGHT?!

Nevertheless, when you start to count the cost of the festive holiday season, it can soon bring you down to earth with a bump, which is why most people dread the month of January.  However, it does’nt have to be so bad……

Instead of getting yourself down over the state of the weather conditions, the concerns about the credit card bill coming through your door, or the lack of cash flow, simply take some time out to plan some fun times throughout the month?

I make a point of arranging get-togethe’s with friends, some of whom I may not have got to see over the festive period.  Taking regular exercise, (and it does’nt have to mean forcing yourself into the gym 5 times a week, to lose those festive pounds), releases those happy chappies called ‘endorphins’ into your blood stream that help to make you feel good.  Walking out in nature always uplifts the spirit and when you do it with your partner, spouse or friends, it can be even more fun.

January is always a good time to take an inventory of your life too.  Consider what you have achieved so far, give yourself a pat on the back.  Rather than chide yourself for not achieving as much, consider what steps you can take to make some positive changes in your life throughout the coming year?  It may be changing career, starting a new hobby, planning a special holiday or joining a course to learn something new.

Whatever you decide to do, choose to have fun doing it, choose to be happy rather than dwell on any past mistakes or worry too much about what the future may hold.  The past is past, the future is yet to come and each day is a gift so live each day in the present and enjoy being you!

Jayne Briggs

 

How To Deal With The Stress That Redundancy Brings

Thursday, September 5th, 2013

Being faced with the prospect of redundancy can be extremely traumatic, but for some, a relief, when they have been unhappy in the job for such a long time.

Redundancy can seem harder for those to face who still have some time to go before they retire. With longstanding employees who have served the company for over 25 years, it can be more traumatic – stressed at the prospect of having to attend an interview for another job – this one aspect of change in itself can be the most traumatic, especially if they have worked their way through the ranks of the same company.

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Stressed Over A New Job? Plan, Prepare And You WILL Prosper

Monday, July 22nd, 2013

There comes a time when the vast majority of us have to look for a new job for whatever reason. Sometimes it’s unfortunately because we’re being made redundant, other times it can be because we need more money and there are plenty of other instances where we’re simply looking for a new challenge.

But whether it’s out of choice or it was a forced move, there can be a whole host of feelings and emotions accompanying it – and stress is regularly one of them.

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Remove The Stress From Your Life By Dealing With Your Worries Head On

Wednesday, July 3rd, 2013

We all get stressed. Some of us more than others, but every single person has to deal with a certain degree of stress throughout their daily life – it’s just a part of being human.

Some people thrive on the adrenalin stress triggers within the body, as it is often believed that it can help us to achieve our goals and give us that feeling of overwhelming satisfaction when, for example, we finish a work project that was making us stressed for several months.

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