How to avoid the post-Christmas blues?

January 9th, 2014

Presents have been exchanged, socializing with friends and family has been great fun, if not maybe somewhat challenging?! The Christmas tree and decorations have all been put away, you’ve probably eaten and drank to excess, but hey who cares, Christmas comes but once a year RIGHT?!

Nevertheless, when you start to count the cost of the festive holiday season, it can soon bring you down to earth with a bump, which is why most people dread the month of January.  However, it does’nt have to be so bad……

Instead of getting yourself down over the state of the weather conditions, the concerns about the credit card bill coming through your door, or the lack of cash flow, simply take some time out to plan some fun times throughout the month?

I make a point of arranging get-togethe’s with friends, some of whom I may not have got to see over the festive period.  Taking regular exercise, (and it does’nt have to mean forcing yourself into the gym 5 times a week, to lose those festive pounds), releases those happy chappies called ‘endorphins’ into your blood stream that help to make you feel good.  Walking out in nature always uplifts the spirit and when you do it with your partner, spouse or friends, it can be even more fun.

January is always a good time to take an inventory of your life too.  Consider what you have achieved so far, give yourself a pat on the back.  Rather than chide yourself for not achieving as much, consider what steps you can take to make some positive changes in your life throughout the coming year?  It may be changing career, starting a new hobby, planning a special holiday or joining a course to learn something new.

Whatever you decide to do, choose to have fun doing it, choose to be happy rather than dwell on any past mistakes or worry too much about what the future may hold.  The past is past, the future is yet to come and each day is a gift so live each day in the present and enjoy being you!

Jayne Briggs

 

Misperceptions, Assumptions And Demands On Ourselves And Others Can Lead To Stress, So Why Get MAD?

November 11th, 2013

When faced with challenging people, situations and circumstances, it is so easy to allow our anger and frustration to get the better of us. However, when you allow yourself to step back and look at the big picture, is it really worth getting mad about?

What you choose to get upset about now you will probably not even think about in 6 weeks or 6 months’ time, unless you allow yourself to become a victim……….

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How To Deal With The Stress That Redundancy Brings

September 5th, 2013

Being faced with the prospect of redundancy can be extremely traumatic, but for some, a relief, when they have been unhappy in the job for such a long time.

Redundancy can seem harder for those to face who still have some time to go before they retire. With longstanding employees who have served the company for over 25 years, it can be more traumatic – stressed at the prospect of having to attend an interview for another job – this one aspect of change in itself can be the most traumatic, especially if they have worked their way through the ranks of the same company.

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5 Clear Signs You’re Stressed – And What You Could Do About It

August 16th, 2013

Most people get stressed from time to time, depending on what is going on in their lives at any given time. What’s important, however, is that you’re able to identify when the stress is becoming problematic to your everyday life.

Whilst there are a number of ways you can spot the signs of stress, the following five are arguably the most notable.

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Stressed Over A New Job? Plan, Prepare And You WILL Prosper

July 22nd, 2013

There comes a time when the vast majority of us have to look for a new job for whatever reason. Sometimes it’s unfortunately because we’re being made redundant, other times it can be because we need more money and there are plenty of other instances where we’re simply looking for a new challenge.

But whether it’s out of choice or it was a forced move, there can be a whole host of feelings and emotions accompanying it – and stress is regularly one of them.

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Remove The Stress From Your Life By Dealing With Your Worries Head On

July 3rd, 2013

We all get stressed. Some of us more than others, but every single person has to deal with a certain degree of stress throughout their daily life – it’s just a part of being human.

Some people thrive on the adrenalin stress triggers within the body, as it is often believed that it can help us to achieve our goals and give us that feeling of overwhelming satisfaction when, for example, we finish a work project that was making us stressed for several months.

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Managing change efficiently and effectively!

June 6th, 2013

When faced with imminent change, rather than allow fear to kick in, why not embrace the idea of ‘new and infinite possibilities’?

Whether you choose to believe it or not, YOU are the creator of your own reality. Therefore, rather than allow yourself to feel like you are on a ‘sinking ship’ or spending too much time considering the ‘yes buts’, or the ‘what ifs’ – ‘grab the bull by the horns’ and make up your mind on how you are going to start to adapt to the changes that are taking place. What choices do you have? Are there any avenues you have not considered or alternative choices/ideas you have not thought about?

Use your time effectively and efficiently to manage the changes by the use of the 3 ‘P’s':-

Plan
Prioritize and
Prepare

Whatever you do, avoid Procrastinating, Catastrophizing and Awfulizing! Give yourself time to process what maybe changing or has changed, be kind to yourself and do not allow worry, fear and anxiety to kick in. Instead, be happy in the knowledge that you are still alive, that you still have so many things in your life to be grateful for and that whatever happens, you will be ok and you will survive!

Your life is a Gift, so live it in the present moment, stay in the here and now in enjoy every single second of it. Spend some time in quiet contemplation and then start re-creating your life, decide who you want to be and how you want your life to look. Don’t worry about the how’s, just have fun doing it. START TODAY!

Spring is finally here – time to re-assess your life?

May 14th, 2013

Re-assessing your life can sometimes seem overwhelming, especially when some kind of change has been forced upon you, whether it be through redundancy, a bereavement or some kind of loss. In such times, one can experience a lot of inner conflict triggered by whatever change has taken place. Consequently, initiating other changes can be too much to face. Is this you?

Neale Donald Walsh, spiritual philosopher said, “when everything changes, change everything”, he even wrote a book of the same title. Change is inevitable and cannot be avoided, so if you think you have reached some form of crossroad, then perhaps it is time to re-assess your life, and consider how you want to make some positive changes?

Fear can be a stumbling block, as can be someone in your life who does not want you to change. However,you need not fear change if you choose to embrace it. Therefore, when making changes, whether it be by changing your career, moving house, relocating to another city or country or finding a new partner, do it one step at a time, and don’t give up on your intentions. Get some additional support if necessary, whether it be by hiring a life coach, seeking out a mentor or confiding in a close friend who you believe will encourage you to do whatever it takes to bring about the changes you seek. Good luck in your journey and DON’T GIVE UP AT THE FIRST OBSTACLE! Stay the course and believe yourself, YOU CAN DO IT.

Vizualise success by getting creative and maintaining faith in your outcome!

June 19th, 2012

Setting out goal plans and taking steps to achieve your goals is one thing, but in order to help you attract the success you so crave in your life, you need to get creative!

So, start by first making your goals SPECIFIC!  Consider by what date, you wish you achieve the goal and remember what I said, be specific!  Then write a letter to yourself describing what your goal will look like by that specific date.  Then, each day, take a few moments to visualise your goal.  Consider, what it will feel like?  Also,  what will you be experiencing when you have reached the goal?

Dale Carnegie stated that back in the late fifties, early sixties, a survey was carried out on Harvard and Yale students to measure their success later in life.  More than half the students who had made goal plans, after graduating, made a success of their lives and had reached their goals by their mid thirties!  Unlike the ones who had left University and had no clue on what they wanted to do with their qualifications.

As we think we create, so get creative, and have faith that whatever you desire, can be yours when you put your body, mind and soul into creating it.  So, get excited, start today, and drop me a line to let me know what you have created.  I feel so excited for you!

Achieving goals means stepping out of the box and allowing your imagination to go wild!

March 22nd, 2012

So many people start to plan goals but soon fall flat, because they lose the focus on them, is this you?  If I had a pound for every person who said to me, when they chose to enter into the coaching arena, “I feel my business needs a boost and I have lots of ideas on how to boost it, but I just feel too overwhelmed, I don’t know where to start?”

What I ask them to consider first of all, is “how do you really want to develop your business”?  “Where do you see your business in 3 months, 6 months, 9 months, 12 months or 18 months”?  “How you can prioritize your action steps?”  What is important to remember when goal planning, is to breakdown your goals into small achievable steps rather than feeling you have to tackle all your actions in one go!  In doing this, your goal plan will not seem such a huge mountain to climb.  It is also imperative that you use the 80/20 pareto principle – which is 20% activities bring about 80% results.  In order to achieve this, simply set aside 90 minutes each day, yes, I did say 90 minutes each day to focus on your business goals.  That way you will feel much more in control and less overwhelmed.

Next, you have to start visualizing your success, every single day.  Remember, thoughts create things, and as you think you create.  This will enable you to create new opportunities which will open new doors.  So in following this advise, don’t be surprised if the phone starts ringing, or you start meeting people who can help you get to where you want to be?! GET EXCITED!

Good luck, and if you need any support, then why not contact me to find out how I could help you achieve your goals?